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I have to get something out in the open.  You may have noticed my excessive posting.  I decided a couple months ago that I wanted to try to earn money blogging, and I read somewhere that writing a post every day for 4 months was a good place to start.  So, I’ve pressured myself to accomplish this goal.  What I’ve found is that my posts have become more of a chore than a joy, and the writing hasn’t improved through the process.  Phew, I feel better just saying all that.

My new goal is to write 2 posts a week.  Some weeks I will do more, and some weeks I might do less.  I hope through this new goal that I can focus on making a more quality post and find a bit more joy in the process.

MIght I add a warm welcome to my new followers, too.  I will say that the increase in posts have brought about 20 new followers, which is incredibly exciting for me.  Thanks for showing interest in this little blog.  And stay tuned for a giveaway when I reach 100 followers!

Have a great rest of your week, and Happy Independence Day to my American readers.  

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Reflection: Legacies

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My mom and me.

I’ve thought a lot lately about the impressions I want to leave on Cody.  I’ve thought about how the way I view myself, treat myself, and express myself directly affects him and the way he will one day view women.  I take this very seriously.

Growing up, I remember observing my mother’s desire to lose weight on a frequent basis.  I remember the way she described herself as “big boned” (she’s not.  She, in fact, wears a petite size and is a very small but shapely woman).  These behaviors often perplexed me even as a child, because all I could see was her beauty.  They did deeply affect the way I have seen myself, inside and out, throughout my life.

I’m happy to say my mom is now becoming more and more confident as each year passes.  She’s finally allowing the Lord to tell her who she is in Him instead of listening to the feelings that have betrayed her over the years.  And this is helping me, even still.  I may be a grown woman, but the life my parents carry out still affects me.

It’s humbling to think that what I do, say, think, and feel will effect Cody so deeply.  I know that if I stay in the Word and continue seeking God, He will let everything else fall into place with my mothering.  I won’t be perfect, of course, but hopefully I can leave a wholesome impression on my sweet son.

Flashback: Legacies

Flashback posts are journal entries that I wrote in the past 4 years since moving to Australia.  I hope you enjoy.  Also, don’t forget to follow me on twitter and pinterest, and a huge “Welcome” to my new followers!  I’m glad you’re here.

5 February, 2011

I’ve been thinking lately…about legacies…about the messages we give people and the examples we set.  I was looking at my friend’s pictures on her facebook, and she had one up of her and her mom.  My friend said something along the lines of “we’re so pretty,” and her mom responded, “I wouldn’t go that far.”  It’s easy for me to immediately think critical thoughts of this response, but how many times do we criticize ourselves for the sake of not seeming rude or haughty?  A few days later, I was at a church gathering with some of the ladies at church, and our topic of conversation eventually ended up on weight.  The topic fresh on my mind from my journal entries, I decided to sit back and observe.  I think most groups of women talking about food and weight, etc, would end up with the same reactions, so I’m certainly not out to criticize this group of women…I observed that every woman there had something negative to say about themselves. 

 
All of these situations had me thinking…what would happen if we started acknowledging that God has made us perfectly?  That we are “fearfully and wonderfully made?”  What if we started thanking people for the compliments they give us instead of immediately criticizing ourselves?  What would happen if we decided to stop counting calories and instead focus on treating our bodies with respect?
 
I think a revolution would happen…a revolution in the way that we feel about ourselves…a revolution in our outlook on people, on food, on confidence, on etiquette.  People would start to stand with a healthy confidence instead of a cheap version of confidence to cover their insecurities.  Kids would start to grow up thinking well of themselves instead of constantly feeling like they’re not good enough.  We would know how valuable we are to God and to the people that love us…and we would know that it’s not wrong to feel that way.  We would be able to help others and give of ourselves, because we would see ourselves as infinitely worth giving…able to help…able to encourage…able to be at peace with who God has made us instead of hating who we are and wondering why He made us that way.  We would be more thankful and less fearful…more settled and dependable and less anxious.  
 
If you are a mom, a dad, a sister, a brother, or a friend, these are things you need to think about.  (Did you notice that I covered everyone)?  Someone is watching the way you live.  Someone is watching the way you interact with others, the way you interact with yourself, and following your example.  Think about what you’re saying and know that it matters.

 

Favorite things Friday

Ever since last week when I watched the video about having a creative career, I have thought about the possibilities and started researching a bit.  Well, Shari over at Spearmint Baby did several posts on Blogging 101, and I have thoroughly enjoyed reading through them and learned a lot that I hope to implement into laughingpromises in the coming weeks/months.

I know I haven’t written much about healthy living in awhile, but it truly is one of my favorite topics.  I am constantly researching and experimenting with different healthy recipes and ways of living.  So, when I stumbled across this article about coconut oil aiding in a cleanse for cancer, I was intrigued.  I’m not sure exactly how credible this source is, but I found it an interesting read, regardless.

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Image from jezebel.com

And speaking of healthy living, if you’re still battling the baby weight like me, consider purchasing a fatkini.  I think they are super cute and am considering buying one for myself (although it is winter here in Australia).  I think the world needs more cute plus size clothes as well as a whole line of cute clothing for post partum bodies.  Who’s with me?  And don’t they look like they’re having the best time?

I have thought often about how little boys are so different from little girls.  They are messier, more adventurous, and more prone to give their mamas heart attacks.  I’m afraid of how I will deal with this at times when Cody is older and needs someone to affirm him rather than put him down.  I think this includes how we talk to others about our kids.  My friend posted this post by Sierra at his eye is on the sparrow, and it gave me some comfort to know that I don’t have to apologise for letting my little boy be a little boy, even at this age.

Little boys like to openly share their farts, but society doesn’t often realise that girls have gas, too.  And, oh man, do we ever.  That’s why I had to laugh at this hysterical post by didoodlesaboutstuff: It was your rack that saved you.  Please, ladies…go have a read.  And make sure you’re some distance from your sleeping child when you do, because you will have to suppress your laughter.

I found this video on pinterest this week and instantly fell in love.  Not only do I LOVE the Big Bang Theory, but this girl is who she is and isn’t ashamed.  I love that.  She’s a unique blend of scientist and an actress.  It’s had me thinking what my unique blend is this week.  Definitely worth a watch.

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Photo from Hair Romance

One part of my “unique blend” is my love for hairstyles, particularly braided ones.  I’ve shared many ideas from Hair Romance before, but she just posted a new tutorial this week based off of Nichole Kidman’s recent style for Cannes.  It’s a curved lace braid, and I can hardly wait for my hair to be long enough to try it (darn you, mom hair cut).

Anyway, that’s all she wrote.  I am uber tired due to Cody teething, so I am going to bed.  I hope you all have a restful weekend.

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Flashback: Free to Dance

Flashback posts are journal entries that I wrote in the past 4 years since moving to Australia.  I will post once a week and do a follow up reflection post the next day.  I hope you enjoy.  Also, don’t forget to follow me on twitter and pinterest.

June 30, 2011

I’m feeling the urge to write again, which is a wonderful event that I’ve been waiting on in the past couple of months.

Facebook had me turned off to the internet for awhile…someone took something I did way out of line and voila–facebook is stupid and tainted and I don’t want them reading about what I’m up to on my blog, etc. So, I’ve been hiding.

Sometimes hiding is a good thing.  We need to keep our distance and set up healthy boundaries with people in our lives that abuse us.  Throughout this whole process, I’ve prayed about what to do and how to handle this with dignity and grace.  God lead me to read through 1 and 2 Samuel, and when I did, He kept showing me something: When Saul attacked David, David ran.  He didn’t sit around and wonder what Saul was going to do next or blame himself for the attack.  He ran.  He hid.  He protected himself.

I’m not saying that every time someone hurts you, this should be the reaction.  I am saying, however, that in situations of abuse, the best thing to do is run.  Abusive situations, even emotional abuse, are evil.  They are not for your good, and God does not expect us to sit around wondering what the abuser is going to say or do next.  So, I ran.  And I hid. 

I won’t be hiding on the internet anymore.  I come with a new confidence in the fact that I am a grown woman standing on my own two feet with a husband who loves me and my own family unit now.  I come with the confidence in knowing that it is my job to protect my family unit, and I come knowing that just because someone says that something is my fault or that I did something wrong doesn’t mean that I did.  I come knowing that I have the right to set boundaries and expect those boundaries to be respected.

I’m in self-discovery mode.  This experience has made me realise a few things about the people in my life and what they were to me growing up.  I have started re-reading my journals again with this new perspective.  I see what I was like as a child and what the people around me were telling me about who I was.  I grew up feeling ashamed of who I was, what I liked, what I wanted to do and be and accomplish.  I grew up blaming myself if someone hurt me.  I grew up feeling ugly, weird, ashamed.  My whole life, I have let people treat me that way. 

All I have left to say is, praise God for being my Father throughout my life and showing me that they were wrong.  I have nothing to be ashamed of.  It’s okay for me to like the color pink.  It’s okay for me to wear my hair in pigtails, no matter what age I am.  I don’t have to brush my hair 100’s of times before I go to bed just to make it look good.  I can enjoy eating healthy and singing in the shower and cross stitching.  I am allowed, and I’m not stupid for enjoying these things. 

You’re Free to Dance
Forget about your two left feet
Free to sing
Even joyful noise is music to Me
Free to love
For I’ve give you My love and it’s made you free.
I have set you free.

Feedback

I’m working on designing a header for the blog as well as a few other changes and would love your input.  What kind of theme would be appropriate for the header of this blog?  I have a little bit of an idea but am not too confident and would love your feedback.  Also, any other feedback on improvements I can make would be excellent.  Thanks in advance!

Happy Blogiversary!

Happy blogiversary, friends.  Apparently, I’ve been writing on this little corner of the internet for a year now, and I couldn’t be happier to have shared my journey with you.  Thanks so much to all of you for reading, commenting, and hanging in there with me through many times.  Welcome to my new followers, also.  I hope you enjoy reading as much as I enjoy writing.

When I sat down to write this blog, I wasn’t sure what would happen with my ttc journey.  I thought I would be here a year later and maybe newly pregnant, but I wasn’t sure that God would grant the “yes” to my prayers so quickly.  I clung to His promises, but I wondered what His plan was, too.  And here I am, nearly due to have my son and ever so thankful for the outlet that this blog has been.  For your entertainment and pleasure, I have compiled a list of my favorite posts over the past year.  I hope you enjoy, and thank you again.

Leibster Blog Award

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I’d like to thank Daily Blessings for nominating me for this award.  I’ve yet to have an award on this blog and am delighted to have this one as my first.  What a blessing!  This award is granted to up-and-coming bloggers with fewer than 200 followers who deserve some recognition and support to keep on blogging. I hope you enjoy getting to know me a little better through this questionnaire.

The instructions are:

1) to answers the 11 questions written by your nominator.
2) to nominate 11 other bloggers who have less than 200 followers.
3) to write 11 of your own questions for each nominee to answer.

Here are the questions I’m answering:

1) When did you start your blog & why?  

I started laughingpromises in January of 2012.  I had been watching a lot of youtube pregnancy vlogs but realised that I wanted something a little more private to vent my feelings and emotions on about our journey toward ttc and pregnancy.  I chose the title because of the Scripture that talks about Abraham and Sarah finding out they were going to have a child at an old age.  I’m by no means old, but the fact that Sarah was given joy and delight in her old age and described it as “laughter.” You can read more about that here.

2) When was your “a-ha” moment on your fertility journey where you decided to get serious?  This came about 2 years ago, long before we started ttc.  I realised I had a problem with fertility when I had no period for months on end.  After a long journey of trying to figure out what was out of balance, the Lord led me to see that it was an intolerance to gluten and soy.  Btw, I was charting the whole time, too, so that I would know when things started to balance themselves again.  So, even though we got pregnant on the first try, I had a long journey off the pill and trying different things before my body was hormonally balanced.

3) If you could start from the beginning, would you change anything during your TTC journey? If so, what?

I can’t say I would change a thing.  I have no regrets about the timing or anything else.

4) Favorite coffee drink?

Coffee in Australia is different.  The menu is confusing.  Nevertheless, they still have lattes, so my favorite is probably a vanilla latte (or caramel).  I also love flat whites with some sort of flavored syrup (hazelnut is nice).

5) Pets? Tell me about them.

I have two guinea pigs: Guster and Spence.  We named them based off of the show Psych, and they are quirky little guys.  Guster loves to eat and will come out into the main part of their cage whenever I’m around because he knows he’ll be getting food out of it.  Spence used to be chill and relaxed, but when I was in America, he got out of the cage and my husband had to chase him around the yard to try and catch him again.  He’s never been the same since.  Incredibly skittish, but he’s still really cute.

6) What’s one thing that not a lot of people, if any, in the real world know about you? (Don’t worry, cyberspace is safe)

Hmmm…this is a tough one!  Ok, this might be a little silly, but it’s what I can think of atm.  If I had all the money in the world, I would still buy a practical car.  I am not into cars much.  Don’t get me wrong, I would want a nice car, but not any more expensive than the average person drives.  

7) What is one piece of wisdom you can give to someone who is in your current situation? Whether that is as a mom, a wife, a TTCer, etc?

One piece of wisdom I can give to other wives is to never ever talk badly about your husband to anyone.  This is a habit I’ve seen many friends get into, especially talking with their moms or best friends, and it ends up being detrimental to the relationship in a lot of ways.  Yes, we need to vent sometimes, but be careful who you vent to.  Husbands need respect whether they’re sitting there with you or not.  My mom told me this and I have found it invaluable in my relationship with my husband.  I not only find that I talk to him about my problem first, which then resolves the issue because we talk it out rather than hold grudges, but those around me have respect for him because of the respect that I have for them.  Don’t be fooled, ladies…our role is very powerful.

8) Celebrity Crush??

Haha this might be one thing most people don’t know about me.  I have two that top my list: Jude Law and Hugh Jackman.  

9) One thing you love & hate about winter?

I love the cosy nights inside with a comfort food.  I hate how long it can last.  I’m grateful to live somewhere that at least has mostly sunny winters (much like FL, actually).  I am depressed with out the sunshine.

10) Favorite holiday/s & why?

I know it’s cliche, but I love Christmas.  I love the festivities and the decorations and the music and the smell of new wrapping paper.  It’s so fun.  I also love my birthday, but that is a purely selfish thing.

11) Will you follow and support these other fine bloggers listed?

Absolutely!  I am happy to follow them and hope they follow me, too!

 

And the nominations are: 

  1. Searching for Middle Ground
  2. Jenn at Future Fords
  3. Not-So-Fertile Girl
  4. Lovely Transitions
  5. Travelnole at Natural Birth
  6. Michelle at Oats n Bows
  7. J. at Dreams of Midnight Feedings
  8. Kelly at Life is Good Today
  9. How We Are Learning to be Parents
  10. Belle at Scrambled Eggs
  11. LoveHopesAndBaby

And here are your questions, Bloggers!

  1. If you could move anywhere in the world, where would you go, and why?
  2. Your husband is gone and you have the whole house to yourself.  What do you do?
  3. Hair: Short or long?  
  4. Daily Hair: Up or down?
  5. What kind of music do you most listen to?
  6. If you had all the money in the world, would you buy a new house or a historic house to remodel?
  7. Beach or mountains?
  8. Pedicure or manicure?
  9. You have $5 in your wallet.  What would you typically spend it on?
  10. Guilty pleasure?
  11. What’s the best thing about where you live?

I hope you enjoy!  Please follow the other bloggers, too.  I know they’d appreciate the followers and support.  Thanks!