I don’t know about you, but I have noticed an undercurrent of attitude associated with breastfeeding nowadays. Women who advocate breastfeeding are–dare I say it–rude in the way they communicate their views. I understand that they want to feel uninhibited in society to feed their baby and blah blah blah. I understand that “baby shouldn’t have to eat in the bathroom ’cause we don’t” and blah blah blah. What I DON’T understand is the fact that if I, as a soon to be mom, have made the decision that I think breastfeeding in public is inappropriate, I am scorned and scolded for having this view. If this is about our right to decide, then why should my viewpoint be taboo?
A few weeks ago, a girl posted this on facebook:
My comment was, “What if you’re offended by both?” to which I then explained that while breastfeeding itself is certainly not offensive to me (in fact, I’m all for it), doing so in public is. In the same way that I don’t appreciate a woman wearing a bikini top around my husband and the other men trying to live godly lives, I don’t appreciate a woman breastfeeding her baby and making these men uncomfortable or tempting them to look. After a long drawn out debate, the girl’s response to me was that I don’t understand because I haven’t had my baby yet…WHAT? Just because my baby is not out of the womb yet does NOT mean that I don’t understand the principles and morals behind the matter.
To me, the core behind this attitude of breastfeeding moms is rebellion. “I can do what I want when I want and how dare you try to stop me.” This attitude is inconsiderate toward men, toward other children who’s parents may not want them to see a stranger’s boobs, and the women with those men and children. It would be one thing if these women were trying to advocate designated breastfeeding areas or a woman’s right to choose how to feed her baby…but this just simply isn’t the whole issue. If this was the whole issue, it wouldn’t matter if I disagreed with these other moms. They would support my right to decide and to protect my family.
Let me be very clear in saying that I advocate breastfeeding…just not public breastfeeding. Like it or not, breasts are a sexual object (God created them this way, which is a wonderful thing) and while, yes, one of their functions is feeding, this should be done in private because of the temptation that a sexual body part brings. I plan to breastfeed my baby and supplement with pumped breast milk or find a discreet feeding area (which they do have in many shopping centers and places if you really want to find them).
So what do you think? Will I lose any followers over this politically incorrect post? I hope not.